Ecchi Review: Nozoki Ana

In my copious consumption of smut I sometimes find something I really, really, REALLY like. Among the tasteless escapades I sometimes uncover a gem or two or ten. Today’s carnal consumption is based on one of two fetishes that can get you a felony: voyeurism and exhibitionism. If you’re already a perverted person or kinky kind you’ll easily recognize these deviant behaviors (I say this with all fondness as a fellow deviant). 

Voyeurism can be described as: the practice of obtaining sexual gratification by looking at sexual objects or acts, especially secretively. Simply put: you get off on watching people without their knowledge.

Exhibitionism can be described as: a tendency to display one’s abilities or to behave in such a way as to attract attention. There’s also the psychiatric definition which describes it as a compulsion to expose yourself in public. 

This manga is kind enough to feature both for our viewing pleasure. It also has an anime, but we won’t focus on that today. Yes everyone, the voyeurist manga calls you–the reader–out on your voyeurism that you exhibit just by reading it. To prove the author right, you can read it here.

The Story

Written by Wakou Honna, this manga starts with our hapless every day college student Kido Tatsuhiko who discovers a hole in the wall of his apartment that shows the inside of the apartment next door. The next door neighbor happens to be none other than Emiru Ikuno, resident chronic masturbator and peeping Tom(ie)*. The short of it: Kido (inevitably) gets caught peeping and Emiru blackmails him into a perverted peeping game that lasts for…quite a while.

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The start of darkness.

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Sexy shenanigans ensue…LOTS OF THEM. So much so that Kido-kun fucks his way through all but maybe 3 women of the named female cast. Classic ecchi strategy where we have no idea why everyone likes him so much but hey lets give him lots of pervy connections! There is nary a chapter where someone isn’t getting naked or having sex. Granted, his attention is not completely unwarranted. He’s a genuine nice guy who talks and tries to relate to the people around him. Dare I say his only real faults are his inability to make quick decisions and set his own boundaries…which get crossed a lot.

There is plot to this; and it’s kind of difficult to describe. Emiru and Kido’s relationship is bizarre to put it into one word; fucked up if you put it in two. Their relationship seems co-dependant (and antagonistic) to the point where they protect their secret arrangement and each other on more than one occasion. The most memorable scenario is probably the chapter where an acquaintance finds out about the hole and tries to coerce Emiru into a similar relationship. Kido shows up just in time in a police uniform to scare off the perp.

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It’s a summer uniform in the winter time but the perp doesn’t realize this.

The manga manages to stay on the lighthearted if not dramedic (drama/comedy) tone until you get to Emiru’s backstory. Then everything goes promptly to shit and things get progressively messy. Everything comes to a head when the two realize that too many secrets can ruin friendships. Neither Kido nor Emiru are innocent characters and are deeply flawed and the manga makes sure to show that. 

Unlike most manga of this nature, Kido isn’t exactly your typical Generic Hentai Protagonist. While he seems to be at the very least, plain, he thinks about and considers the consequences of his actions and tries to do right by people. He doesn’t “actively” seek out scenarios but instead becomes trapped in situations because he’s a pushover and has trouble setting his own boundaries. He is able to abide by Emiru’s rules for the peeping, but he doesn’t put up personal boundaries (aside from the “not cheating on my girlfriend” rule). Because of this he ends up crossing over into more and more risque situations that cause more and more trouble down the line.

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And shit like this happens.

Emiru is a strange character in and of herself. A lot of times you don’t find women in comics who have voyeuristic fantasies, much less develop mutual relationships with other people who enjoy it too. While her motivations are screwed up and complex, they can be appreciated for what they are. Throughout the story Emiru is the only character who remains “honest”. She doesn’t cheat on anyone, encourage cheating, or seek to ruin relationships…yet all the drama revolves around her and her proximity to Kido. All of it. 

To post any more about the story would be spoiling the whole thing. It’s a must read for perverts and perverts who claim that they read it for the plot. 

 

Personal Thoughts?

Well…it is an ecchi/seinen manga so I like it based off of the premise alone. I’ll even include links to my Top 5 Favorite scenes (Zero context because you’ll have to read it yourself):

I appreciate this manga for showing us the (possible) real life consequences of voyeurism. Some characters lose relationships because of their prying eyes. Other people find love and work through their feelings. Some realize they lack a sense of self due to their obsessions. It should also be noted that everyone engages in consensual and non-consensual peeping but that doesn’t make it right! 

This manga also manages to hit you in the feels on more than one occasion. It’s always surprising to catch feelings while reading what is essentially porn with plot. I think that’s what makes this such a fun read that I keep getting back to. 

 There’s also the surprising trait of showing men and women in an equal light as well. Everyone’s actions are shown as being serious and assault is NOT played for laughs. While everything ends kind of tidy there is a TON of gut wrenching content between chapters. This manga also kind of gives me I”s vibes and I don’t know why…

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Another story for another day…

I have to hammer home a quick point that I made earlier: YOU ABSOLUTELY CAN GET CRIMINAL CHARGES FOR VOYEURISM AND EXHIBITIONISM. This stuff will stay on your criminal record and will cost you your jobs and livelihoods. If you want to peep, make sure the other person/group of people knows. Don’t film people without their consent. 

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They absolutely WILL call the cops on you.

 


*Tomie: One of my favorite horror manga. More on that some other time.

 

Dere To Believe Part 2: Yandere

Here we go again with another segment on anime personalities and why they do not translate to real life. Today’s model personality (and an EXTREMELY popular one at that) is the yandere and what makes them so damn appealing. Grab your knives and turn off your cellphones because she’s likely tracked your location and she is on her way to your house.

What is a Yandere?

Yandere (ヤンデレ) is derived from the Japanese word yanderu (病んでる) which means “insane” or “sick” and deredere (デレデレ) which means affectionate. Put those two words together and you have someone who literally sick/insane with “love” for another person and laundry list of problems that are only beginning and will, in fact, get so much worse.

The Yandere is (usually) a female character who is in love with someone who is often the main character. Since this is often a female trope I will use the pronouns she/her throughout this post. Her love is characterized by her willingness to do anything to prove her love to the object of her affection. And by anything we mean ANYTHING. Stalking, kidnapping, (attempted) murder are not stricken from the list. If she wants you, she will have you at ANY COST. She may or may not have a body count (dead or alive), several social media accounts, and maybe a burner phone along with diaries or a stalker shrine. And more often than not, she has a very cute appearance.

On the surface, most Yanderes are fairly well put together, likable, and unassuming and usually friendly people…that is until they develop a love interest. In anime they take the forms of characters such as the notorious Yuno Gasai:

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That cellphone is magic.

Possibly tied for first with Kotonoha Katsura:

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Something about a boat?

And then there’s this bitch:

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You have to watch the anime to get the full scope of why she’s terrifying. She’s played for laughs.

Through my personal observations and some help from Captain Obvious I’ve noticed that in spite of the very terrible things these characters do (Yuno drugs and kidnaps Yuki, Kotonoha kills her rival and her love interest), they still have an even more dedicated fanbase. Even though these characters are in dire need of therapy and commitment to an institution, the predominantly male fanbase goes fucking nuts over them.

Who is a Yandere?

Technically anyone can be a yandere if they get desperate enough. Get rejected “one too many times”? Can’t get someone off your mind and refuse to deal with it in a healthy way? Got entitlement issues? You’re a Yandere in the making and you might want to seek help?

Why is a Yandere?

Why are they like this? In anime they’re usually given a tragic backstory that gains audience sympathy. You don’t agree with her actions but you’ve developed an understanding. Double those points if you can see yourself doing similar things if you were in their situation. Sometimes they’re used for comedic effect like Juvia from Fairy Tail.

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She gets a little better…

Sometimes they’re the Token Evil Teammate who is only around to protect their love interest from anyone who is a rival—which is pretty much everyone who is NOT them. They are prone to wildly inappropriate behavior which includes (but is not limited to):

  • Stalking
  • Taking pictures of said person without their knowledge.
  • Kidnapping or paying someone to kidnap their love interest
  • Attempting to isolate their LI, usually done by spreading rumors or emotionally/financially abusing them
  • Sexually harassing/assaulting them
  • Stealing items that belong to said person
  • Continuing unwanted contact (creating multiple social media accounts to continue interactions)

And this largely gets swept under the rug because they are attractive. Case and point:

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Article found here.

I found this on the Facebook page Eccentric Weeaboo where the poster cleverly shares the events with the caption “Real Life Yandere You Say”?

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Also, fuck this person for calling her a girl. She’s 21.

The story according to Tokyo Reporter is a woman stabbed the man twice and was prepared to kill herself when the police caught her. I will not link the aftermath photo to avoid the squeamish aspects. I will also not be linking the comments that state the various levels of admiration and the *ahem* things they’d like to have this woman do to them and vice versa. I will however share this post because it encompasses my collective confusion at some of ya’ll:

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How are Yanderes?

The collection of “what the fuck-ness” that is my brain continues to baffle me while reading the comments on these posts. I’m not entirely sure why men are this way towards cute female characters that would in fact kill them to keep them. In the case of this woman, I would dare say that Japense fetishization plays HEAVILY in the roll of wishing to have a yandere gf, but that’s a post for another day and ya’ll ain’t ready for this.

As long as the person in question is attractive, all sorts of behaviors can be excused due to pretty bias. It’s a psychological thing where you associate beauty with goodness and your cognitive dissonance erases anything resembling common sense because you’re stupid. That’s it. Stupidity. Your stupid horny ass is going to get you killed.

While being a dumbass sucks, it’s kind of understandable. After all, a yandere’s obsession can often be seen as love to some people. And honestly, the appeal of someone being willing to do anything to protect you and keep your happiness in the forefront of their minds sounds like an ideal loving relationship–at first. Unhealthy relationship expectations, inexperience, and low self esteem are pitfalls that make people vulnerable to these kinds of people. And then there are people who actively pursue this sort of thing.

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I’m not here to tell you where to stick your dick, but I’m also suggesting that you don’t bed crazy or actively pursue it. The Yandere personality translated to real life is terrifying with tragic results. A quick Google search will turn up no shortage of articles on “spurned lovers” who “snapped” and killed the objects of their obsession and caused TONS of collateral damage as a result. I also understand that not everyone is like this. The comments sections of articles of beautiful women committing crimes is full of people who understand the despicableness of their actions and hold them accountable.

When are Yanderes?

When are Yanderes acceptable? By acceptable I mean “when are yandere’s seen as love-interests and when are they creepy?” There are two rules that are consistently followed:

  1. They have a backstory with enough audience sympathy to make their actions seem “not as bad” or justifiable/understandable based on their plight.
  2. They are attractive, almost to a fault. The ones I’ve seen in media are often quiet and unassuming, often nice or polite. They are pretty, nice to look at, and have nice voices.

In real life this sometimes translates and sometimes doesn’t. Female stalking (a stock yandere behavior) is often seen as a sign of mental illness and is usually unacceptable. This is explored in the video “Stalking for Love” by Pop Culture Detective.

There are several videos that explore this and similar concepts that get portrayed in media as positive when they actually shouldn’t and also happen to be textbook yandere behaviors:

Yanderes in real life are obsessive, controlling, and abusive individuals. Making multiple social media accounts to “check up on” or stay in contact with people who do not want to be in contact with you is not healthy. Threatening to hurt yourself or others is also wrong. The best thing you can do for yourself when you’re rejected is to back off and move on with your life. Some therapy wouldn’t hurt either.

Are YOU the Yandere?

Maybe you’ve noticed while reading this that some of your behaviors fall along these lines. What do you do when you’ve been obsessively stalking someone? What do you do when you’re three accounts deep and people have receipts? You’ve recognized your behavior and you want to stop it.

First of all, I’m not your psychologist or your therapist so I can’t actually give you the best advice you need to change and rectify your behaviors. I’m also not studying psychology or anything in that field so I’m not an expert on these things. The only thing I can do is point you in the right direction. So here are a few bits of food for thought:

  • Schedule an appointment with a doctor/psychologist/therapist as soon as possible. If you’re unable to schedule with a professional, the next best thing is to join a support group for people with obsessive behaviors.
  • Delete your extra social media accounts. You don’t need them.
  • Look for and practice healthy behaviors that will help your mental health.

Seeking help is your first step to recovery and developing a health sense of self and relationships.


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Anime Cons When You’re 25+ (Part 2)

Per my last post I covered the beginning basics of attending Anime Conventions when you’re Over the Hill. It’s time for us to continue. Please insert coins.

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Please.

Quick Eats:

You now know how to deal with friends and make sure you get paid for the room. Your next step is to figure out a food budget for the weekend. It’s difficult but not entirely impossible to eat well during a con and hopefully I can help you figure out how to do so. You may be tempted to hit up cafes or local restaurants in order to soothe the rumblies…until you realize the prices are jacked up everywhere you go and EVERYONE HAD THE SAME IDEA AS YOU.

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And before you know it, you crave hands.

Con food is expensive and I say that with full confidence. It doesn’t even taste that great nor is it that filling. My first trip to Anime Central left me feeling empty from the lackluster food choices they had for catering. That and every restaurant in a 5 mile radius will inevitably be full of people in costumes clamoring for calories and I bet you don’t want to deal with that slaughterhouse. So to avoid all this we need to find some alternatives:

Ramen

The easiest to get a hold of and easiest to fix. Most hotel rooms have a microwave and using reusable bowls ensure there’s little trash left over. They come in a variety of flavors and there are different kinds of pre-packaged noodles you can purchase.

Apples and Oranges and Bananas

These fruits travel well and can be eaten quickly on the go. They’re a perfect pick-me-up when you’re out and about and are super nutritious.

Oatmeal

Pre-packaged oatmeal can make a nice breakfast. They usually come in portioned out packets that can either me heated up in the microwave or have hot water poured over them. Having a portable kettle is helpful for this one.

PB&J

Peanut butter and jelly sandwiches are a surprisingly satisfying meal on their own. The peanut butter gives you protein and the jelly adds some sweetness. Sandwiches are a gift to starving con attendees.

Protein Bars/Trail Mix/Popcorn

Snacking in between meals is IMPORTANT. Always have a power bar or a bag of trail mix on your person. The last thing you’ll want to do is leave a panel early because you’re feeling like you’ll pass out. If possible eat a snack every hour and set a reminder on your phone to remind yourself to stay well-fed.

Potatoes!

You might need to hold onto your seats for this one: potatoes are a good option. If you like baked potatoes and aren’t afraid to bring them to your hotel room you can make some baked potatoes in the microwave. If you want a recipe, click here.

If you want to eat a little fancier there are other options, just make sure you have a surge protector:

  • Using a pressure cooker/crockpot to make foods like chili, soups, stews, and taco meat. You can click here for some ideas. You can also bring a rice cooker.
  • If you have a mini fridge you might be able to get some sandwich supplies in there (meat, veggies, cheese).
  • potato chips and dip
  • canned soup/pasta

Make sure you’re following hotel room protocol and clean up after yourself. Organize your meal times around your expected con schedule to make sure everyone is well fed. To keep costs down everyone should contribute equally to the food selections. I also suggest bringing reusable bowls and utensils to cut down on waste. Bring dish soap and a sponge to clean bowls afterwards. 

Drinking Rules

Drinking happens at cons. Room parties get started and the booze flows like the Nile river. So if you plan on drinking at all you’ve got to prepare yourself to deal with drunk people and being drunk yourself. I’ll lay out a few ground rules for drinkers of all levels and then specific tips for those levels individually.

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All Levels

  • Make sure you eat before and while you’re drinking.
  • Always hold onto your drink. Don’t give it to anyone. If you don’t feel like drinking anymore, pour it out.
  • Stay with friends and avoid drinking alone. Make sure everyone has everyone’s phone numbers and phones are charged.
  • Never let anyone leave alone with anyone.
  • Avoid mixing alcohol and drugs.
  • If you’re underage, don’t drink. It will cause problems.
  • Don’t pressure others to drink if they don’t want to.
  • If you don’t want to drink, DON’T DRINK. If you’re feeling pressure, it’s okay to leave those people and go elsewhere.
  • KNOW YOUR LIMITS! If you’re not sure what they are, A CONVENTION IS NOT THE PLACE TO TEST THEM.
  • DRINK WATER!
  • Always know where the toilet is.
  • If someone is making your friend feel uncomfortable, HELP THEM OUT AND INTERVENE. Leave together or (if you’re hosting in your room) kick the perp out. If you’re at a party, tell the host who the creep is before you leave. Hopefully they’ll listen and kick them out.
  • Don’t let minors drink.

Beginners

Whether you just turned 21 or don’t drink regularly there’s a few rules to help you navigate the world of drinking at cons. I mostly dislike being sloppy drunk and not being in control of myself so I have to limit my alcohol intake regularly.

  1. Hang out with likeminded people. If you don’t drink a lot or just have a few for social reasons, it’s always great to be around people who have similar interests. If a glass of wine will do it for you and a group of friends, great! Drinking isn’t a personality trait and hangovers aren’t fun.
  2. Decide what kind of drinks you want ahead of time. If you only want a rum and coke, don’t do shots. If there’s a party bartender, let them know how much alcohol you want in your drink. They’re usually pretty nice about this, especially if you tip them a dollar.
  3. Have a bottle of water handy. Alcohol dehydrates you and waking up with cotton mouth is gross. If you only have a few (1-2) drinks you might not have to worry about this much.
  4. You have the option to not drink at all. Not drinking is a valid choice.
  5. If you’re not comfortable drinking in large groups you can just have an intimate pajama party with friends in the hotel room and drink there. You’re with people you know, you know where the bathroom is, and there’s no pressure.

Intermediate

If you’re about that age where you can’t drink like you used to, or know your way around a bar you might be intermediate. Many of the rules from beginners applies here as well. You’re probably familiar with hangovers and have a few stories to tell about wild things that happen. Some rules that apply to your level are:

  1. Know your limits but don’t (try to) surpass them.
  2. Look out for your inexperienced friends.
  3. Make sure you all go in with a plan and stick to it. Nobody gets left behind!
  4. If one friend overdoes it, party is over. Everyone leaves and friend gets taken care of. This sounds harsh and a bit of a downer, but it really means a whole lot when everyone gathers around to help a fallen friend.

Expert

If you’re an expert drinker you’ve probably seen/done it all. From throwing up to stumbling home you’ve covered a fair number of bases and probably have that one brand of alcohol that reminds you of a time you nearly died. Guess what? You’ve got rules too!

  • If you’re the friend who is well-known for getting wasted, this is not exactly a good thing. I’ll let you in on a secret: nobody likes you when you’re sloppy drunk and need a babysitter. Even if you can take care of yourself you’re a liability to others. Moderate yourself.
  • Don’t start fights! If you know you’re getting drunk under the table and you’re not exactly sure what’s going on, the last thing you need is to fight somebody. If you know you’re prone to do this, moderate yourself.
  • Don’t try to fuck anyone. If you’ve been drinking and feel like hooking up with someone, wait until you’re sober.
  • If you know you tend to get loose lips when you’ve been drinking, you may want to rethink your entire strategy or avoid drinking altogether. Like the Beginner Drinker you may want to stick to just drinking with friends or not drinking at all. Drinking is not a personality trait. The last thing you need to do is have drama erupt over something “Drunk You” said. Believe it or not Drunk You and Sober You are the same person and you’re responsible for them.

 

Hooking Up

Believe it or not some people attend cons just to get laid. I remember a guy asking me if I knew any single girls he could hook up with for the night. Yeah…that actually happened. That said if you’re a grown and responsible adult we should get around to tackling the subject of hooking up at conventions, because lets face it: that stuff happens.

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Forgive my immaturity.

If you and someone plan on hooking up it’s best to be prepared so I have a checklist you’ll want to cover:

  1. Make sure the person you’re banging wants to bang you and they’re in your age range. This goes without saying. Consent is just the standard. Minors cannot consent. End of story.
  2. What are the room rules? If the room says no hooking up, don’t do it. The last thing you want is to deal with a friend getting mad at you for not following the rules.
  3. Do you have protection? Always use protection peeps. If the person you want to bang doesn’t want to use protection, let them go. They aren’t worth the risk.
  4. Know your status.
  5. Don’t feel pressured to put out if you don’t want to. Make sure you’re with people who respect your decision.
  6. Keep it private. Exhibitionism is a kink that can get you registered as a sex offender.
  7. Do communicate properly to all parties involved. Do not do anything not already agreed upon.
  8. Make sure to take precautions to avoid injury and damage to yourself, your parter(s), and any objects in the room you don’t want damaged. Don’t damage or use items that are not yours.
  9. Make sure to enjoy yourself. If things don’t go according to plan, it’s okay!
  10. Don’t cheat on your SO(‘s). 

I didn’t have as much to say about this because it all speaks for itself. You know what the rules are, follow them! Hooking up isn’t necessary to have a good time, but hey–whatever rocks your boat.

I’m going to have to make a separate post for cosplay meltdowns and how to take care of your hotel room because it would take up way too much space here. Plus this post isn’t embellished enough. I’m going to have to fix that one.

 

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Conventions When You’re 25+ (Part 1)

Since my last draft got deleted through a stupid error I am forced to sit up here and re-type as much as I can from memory with (hopefully) better embellishments and new quips. Unfortunately my cat got in my notecards and I’m too lazy to pick them up…

Here goes.

So you want to got to X Convention?

Most times cons are the most fun when you’re young because everything is new and fresh and exciting and you’re just diving in to experience everything. If this isn’t your first time on the block you can start experiencing con burnout. This usually starts to set in around the age of 22. 21 is when you can drink legally and after the novelty wears off you begin to get a little jaded. And I’m sorry to say, it all goes downhill from there.

If you want to go to a con you need to have a plan in place, a sturdy one at that. If you don’t go in with a plan, things can go horribly wrong and good luck trying to get things back on track after that because OOF you’re going to have trouble fixing that one. You can start by asking yourself a few good questions:

  • What convention do you want to go to? The US has a TON of cons you can attend during just about any time of the year. You can find an extensive list here.
  • What is your budget? Factor everything from hotel prices to badge prices to the cost of food and travel. Leave no details out.
  • How many people do you want to go with you? Going to cons with friends can lighten the burden of finances.
  • Do you plan on buying/making cosplays?

With these questions answered you are well on your way to having a great convention experience. Believe it or not, you can still have fun at cons when you’re 25-plus sun rotations into your lifetime; you just need to factor some variables in.

Golden Rules and CON-Mandments

Conventions can be fun. They can also be taxing and stressful. This can do a massive number on you if you don’t prepare properly. If you’re not careful, you can end up with LOADS of drama and bad memories that you can’t drink away, that an paragraphs long Facebook posts and pics you won’t ever be able to get rid of.

Absolutely nothing can go wrong…right?

Always Take Your Payment Upfront!

I put this rule at the top because hoo boy I can tell you plenty of stories about people who failed to pay their dues and it did not end well for either party involved. If the hotel is booked in your name–especially if it’s booked in your name, take your payments as soon as possible! This is NOT AN OPTION. The absolute last thing you want to do is show up at your hotel only to learn that so-and-so friend didn’t pay up and now you’re short on money.

Get them coins dearie.

Don’t accept “pay later” friends either. Chances are they actually have the money and are just hiding it in order to spend on merch and food. They rarely pay you back in a timely manner and you will be on edge the whole weekend because you had to pay some of your money forward to cover for them. This will create tension in your room that will not go away.

This brings me to my next point…

Make Sure Everyone Has Multiple Methods of Payment!

Be it Cashapp, Paypal, Google Dollar, Venmo, or Square; make sure you are prepared to take payments in ANY form. There are zero excuses for this. If your crew doesn’t have at least 2 of these apps on their phone, they can’t be trusted. Have that money in your account ahead of time. Make sure everyone pays. Anybody who doesn’t pay gets left behind.

Know Your Friends

I’m all for having friends come with me to cons. It’s fun. You all know each other. Memories will be made. But guess what happens? There’s such thing as bringing the wrong friends to the con. It happens, has happened. Be careful of:

  • Don’t bring broke friends. These are people who can’t pay for anything (food, badge, room).
  • Don’t bring frienemies. Frienamies aren’t actually fun to be around and will ruin your weekend. Got beef with someone? Don’t bring them. The tension will come to a head and you all will be sorry.
  • Friends who don’t agree to the rules laid down. If you have rules in place (as you should!) and people don’t agree to abide by them? Ditch them. It’ll become a problem later.
  • Know everyone who goes in the room. Don’t allow anyone you aren’t close with to be in the room. No friends of friends, no family of friends (unless you now them!), and ABSOLUTELY no one that only ONE person knows. Problems WILL arise from this.

In case you might be wondering why I’m being so harsh, there’s an entire Tumblr dedicated to these kinds of Convention Horror Stories. It speaks for itself.

Set Room Rules

You have to have boundaries. I can’t stress this enough. When you’ve got a limited number of key cards and are running on little sleep, you’re going to hope everyone has your back. SET UP RULES FOR YOUR ROOM! I can’t pound this into the ground any harder than if I had Mjolnir on loan from Thor himself. If you don’t set up rules, things will go South faster than Wile E Coyote discovering gravity.

Don’t know what kind of rules to enforce? I’ll give you a few of my own that I enforce on the regular.

  • Nobody is allowed in the room who isn’t on the room roster. People have sticky fingers. Incredibly sticky fingers. Things go missing at an alarming rate. And if you have 6+ people going in and out of your room, you will discover your inventory gets cleared out faster than a death in Majora’s Mask.
  • Sleep times must be arranged and respected. I normally wouldn’t put people in my room who don’t have the same sleep schedule as me, but it does happen sometimes. Make sure you know what times everyone will be in and out and make sure you don’t make too much noise for those who need a little more sleep. If you all are getting up there in age, this shouldn’t be too hard as most of you might make it to bed by 11pm.
  • No room parties. I don’t host those anymore. They aren’t fun when you’re the one hosting and you can’t make people leave fast enough.
  • Make proper sleeping arrangements. If you don’t have enough beds/blankets/pillows, you’d better make sure everyone else brings spares because you’re going to lose your shit when people get pissed over not having the hotel bed. I promise you the hotel will NOT have any spare blankets or pillows for anyone. Everyone is going to want a good sleep and having some air mattresses and comforters will make everyone’s stay a little bit happier.

Stay tuned for part 2 where I’ll be tackling:

  • grocery lists
  • drinking rules
  • hooking up
  • cosplay meltdowns

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New Year: Blank Slate

With the new clone 2019 shoving the old clone 2018 into an incinerator we are now officially ready to start off the New Year right! And it seems we have a lot of things packed within these first few months alone. I’m personally looking forward to a few things:

  • Kakegurui Season 2- I just want to see gambling games.
  • Kingdom Hearts 3- Nomura owes us an explanation for all these games! And I ordered the Deluxe Edition!
  • 7 Seeds (anime)- A straight up depressing manga. Now I have to re-read it before the release.
  • Boku no Hero Academia Season 4- (I gotta catch up with the manga first!)
  • Fruits Basket (reboot)- Finally we get to see Rin!
  • My first Colossalcon- Will make a full post detailing my cosplays and people I’ve met!
  • 28 Days of Black Cosplay- You already know that this is about!

Meanwhile I’ll continue trying to find a focus for this blog. I hate that I have so few articles up and I’ve purchased this domain myself! *cries* I’m certainly sure things will get more interesting from here on out.

2018 Highlights

  • Playing Final Fantasy XV
  • Watching Laputa: Castle in the Sky
  • Playing/Beating Bayonetta 2
  • Playing Smash Bros Ultimate (when I haven’t touched anything SSB related since Brawl)
  • Watching Castlevania

I honestly wish I had written about all of the above when I had the chance but I didn’t. I’ll make it my personal responsibility to finish what I’ve started.

“Dere” to Believe: An honest look at popular anime personalities

Anime tropes are popular, no bones about it. You’ll often hear your local weeaboo tossing about terms they’ve learned from their favorite series one way or another. These tropes don’t just appear in anime but are standard for fiction writers around  the globe. That said, who wants to take a look at popular personality tropes and watch me deconstruct them haphazardly?

No?

I’m so glad you asked!

These tropes are usually represented by female characters, although they are perfectly fine for any and all characters regardless of gender or presentation. For the sake of simplicity we are going to use the pronouns she/her/they if that’s alright with you guys.

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There are four common “dere” personalities

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Clearly not my personal work. Give credit where it’s due.

 

As you can see; the suffix ‘deredere’(でれでれ) simply means to be loving or sweet towards someone. The prefixes just so happen to describe what kind of love that person encompasses. While on the surface as a flat archetype these descriptors are just regular categories to drop your characters into—which is harmless. They’re just characters.

 

But what happens when you translate them to real life?

I’m under the impression that people have trouble dividing fantasy and reality because I hear people talking about their favorite personality types (particularly when referring to their favorite characters) and how they’d just LOVEto be with a kuudere. I can’t help but wonder if they’ve really thought it through because these character traits are…concerning to say the least.

 

Tsundere

(harsh on the outside, sweet on the inside)

The Good

At first glance a hot/cold character seems like an almost ideal type. Harsh until you get to know them—not a bad thing, especially if you start off on the wrong foot. I very well could give this a pass and chalk it up to getting to know someone better over time.

 

The Bad

Ever notice how tsundere characters tend to get violent with the objects of their affections? Whether it’s full blown arguments or megaton moe punches, the poor person gets their noggins knocked. Then there’s the verbal lashings that border on abuse. I’m usually able to give passes on affectionate nicknames or occasional name-calling but the way Asuka treats Shinji is really unsettling. Since she spends the entire series unable to spit out her feelings and Shinji can’t read minds—it leads to a lot of confusion (the end of Evangelion notwithstanding).

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The view is captivating.

 

The Ugly

Well, as we all know (or should know), tsundere tropes are usually exaggerated and played (mostly) for laughs because *we all know that kind of erratic behavior is actually abusive and you won’t find love that way*. Right everyone? Of course nobody would ever think such hot and cold behavior would actually be attributed to feelings of love and affection (Italics for sarcasm and emphasis).

I’ve got some bad news for you all…People really think this works!

In real life I see this pop up in a lot of relationships where the idea of being hot/cold is seen as a good thing and is an appropriate way to show you’re interested in someone. Katy Perry songs aside, this hot/cold dynamic sends mixed signals and it’s a GREAT way to cause problems early on and ruin your chances later.

The truth is: tsundere characters treat their love interests like crap and are sending mixed signals that can in no way be interpreted as romantic interest. I’ve got nothing.

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Where the hell have I been?

It turns out I’ve been absent for a little while.

*pauses to gauge audience reaction*

Okay, a long while.

*pause*

Okay, I’ve been absent for an extended period of time. A VERY extended period of time at that. And in my time off I can’t say that I’ve learned anything new or gained any insight to the Geek world. Life comes at you fast and sometimes it takes the fun out of things you love. And I’m sorry to say that I just spent my time off working.

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Those gosh darned r-r-r-rules you know?

Now that I’m back I haven’t fully decided which direction I’m going with all of this. Shocking, I know. I spent all this money for a domain and I don’t know what to type. In spite of my doubts I will still continue to write about my adventures in the Geekdom and hopefully include more pics/gifs of my cat Stinkbutt Sombra.

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Photo for reference. She’s not interested in anything.

I was, however, able to watch a few new anime in my time off. Namely Boku no Hero Academia, Golden Girls, Brooklyn 99, and Devilment Crybaby. Will I write a review on these? Probably not. Did I find them extremely entertaining? Yes…well just about as much as anything that can hold my interest for more than 30 minutes. I have a short attention span and I get bored easily.

I won’t let my boredom get the better of me.

I’m not going to smash my keyboard….yet.

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Rate my setup. x/10